How do you get your husband to agree on decorating your way?
Look, my wife is an architect and the house is her hobby. As far as I am concerned, whatever she wants to do, she just goes and does it.
However, if you pull something like that on your husband, I will be able to hear the screaming arguments from here.
perhaps a mock-up or visual idea of what you hope to accomplish
Reply:I am going to side with your husband on this one. A shared space like a bedroom needs to reflect both people living there. Especially since it is a room that is so personal to a couple like a bedroom is. This is a project that you two need to plan and do together. I know women who went ahead and redecorated thier bedrooms the way they wanted with out consulting thier husbands. The rooms were turned into "estrogen zones" and the men felt uncomfortable in them. I'm talking lavenders and pinks here. FLorals aren't too big in male decorating either. You want your mate to be relaxed and comfortable in your shared bed so he wants to be there. Have some respect for his tastes too. Good Luck.
Reply:I think you are selfish for not considering his feelings. The theme you have chosen is too feminine for a man. I am sure you can come to some sort of compromise. It can't be all your way. If I was your husband and I went away %26amp; returned to find my bedroom decorated in a way that I had previously said I did not want, I would take everything out of that bedroom and burn it in the barbecue pit. I would make sure I took your credit cards away and clean out any bank account that you had access to. If you can't be responsible %26amp; respectful with the money you all share, you don't deserve to have any of it. How dare you be that disrespectful to the man who works everyday to pay the bills.
Reply:A very wise (and happily married) older woman once told me something about decorating bedrooms....and I will never forget it. She said that a woman can be very comfortable in a bedroom that is decorated in a masculine way, but a man will NEVER be comfortable in a bedroom that is decorated in a feminine way.
Makes a LOT of sense to me when you think about it. Try for more masculine, with some little feminine touches that express both of you. After all, the bedroom SHOULD be a domain where you can BOTH be happy. Have a female lavender and yellow space somewhere else (kitchen, lanai, bathroom, study...) where you spend more time alone than you do with him.
Reply:If you want something than you gotta give up something. Does your husband have a room of his own? A sports room? Or a computer room? Or the garage? I would suggest that you propose it like this: You give me our bedroom and I'll give you another room in the house that you can decorate as you see fit.
Give him a "man zone" you know? Let him hang up sports posters. Obviously if its in the house, you might not want him hanging up girlie posters, but remember the old truism: You give a little to get a little.
Reply:I think any man would object to such a feminine bedroom. You need to consider his taste as well, even though you are disappointed.
I don't know how long you have been married, but this is a big deal. Try to come up with another idea that would be more suitable for an adult couple.
After all, you're not a child anymore and not a young woman planning her wedding. Break the habit and go in an entirely new
direction. You said you are into interior design, so I know you can do much more.
Reply:Lavender and yellow floral would make me sick. I can't imagine a man liking it. What ever you do, don't go behind his back. You'll be sleeping in that frilly room alone.
Reply:hon, I just can't blame him...this is a very girly theme, and very few men are going to be crazy about it. I hate flowers, and despise lavender...surely there are themes you can both agree on. AND if you are going to sell that house before a redo of the bedroom, I suggest that you consider more neutral or masculine themes...everyone likes neutral or masculine, but themes that are highly feminine are more for little girl's rooms than adults. Just my opinion. He has to spend time there to, and if you make it SEXY for him, you will end up the winner, I can promise you that. IF you go aobut decorating something in a theme that he has stated he does not like while out of town, you need to rethink your position on marriage! IF my mate did this, there would be hell to pay, and a decorator would be paid also, one that doesn't involve you in the decor. I am not being harsh here, I am suggesting that this is a common room to both of you. If you are really stuck on this, then do a guest bedroom this way, but NOT the master bedroom. Very bad idea. Good luck
Reply:I think ''you compromise''...that is what marriage is about....even about decoration. Lavender and yellow?...what's next, you're gonna have a flower theme in your bathroom? I think you're acting like a little girl.
Reply:I did it two years ago, he was out of country for two weeks and I renovated the social bathroom! It is so beautiful now!
But it almost cost my marriage. He did not speak to me for two weeks.
Now, he helps me to clean it and most of the time while in the shower, he washes the glass doors.
And this year I renovated the one in our suite, and when he came back from his trip, he said: Hum, Looks nice.
Hope, if you decide to do it, he will accept and enjoy it too.
All my friends husband told me they wish, they come back from their trip and their wife have done what I did.
Spend the money where I spent, instead of shoes, clothes and etc.
Reply:I think pastel colors are too feminine looking for males.I would try to go with something that was unisex.They may be YOUR favorite colors but not his. It is his room too. How would you like to sleep in a bedroom that was overly masculine looking? Don't redo the room when he is out of town.You already know that he doesn't like the idea so why would you even think of doing it? That is just asking for trouble.Try to come up with something else that both of you can agree on.
Reply:Marry a gay man.
Reply:I wouldn't recommend going behind his back when he has said a definite "no". My husband couldn't care less what colors I decorate in. He has more important things to worry about. I suppose that if he came home to a bedroom that was decked out in pink he may have something to say.
Reply:Oh Geezzzzzzzzzzzzzz I've been throught that! Please. It's the womans place to decorate. It's the mans job to follow her around and say it looks beautiful honey!! Tell him to get over it.
Reply:Yeah, you should have married a girl. My husband and I chose our decor together, it is very tasteful, but does not look like a princess' castle. You have to give a little here.
Doing that behind his back is not cool, what kind of marriage do you even have. Clue....it is supposed to be a partnership.
Reply:Men just aren't crazy about flowers.. Is there some other theme that reflects both of your tastes?
Reply:I am also into interior decorating but I try hard to incorporate my fiances ideas and opinions. i think a man feels somewhat de-masculated when he is sleeping in a pastel floral bedroom.
I suggest sitting down with him and having him help you pick paint colors, maybe yello for the walls and minimal flowers will help him feel more masculine.
Dont redo it while he is gone, he will think you have zero regard for his opinions.
Reply:The better choice would be to find something you both agree on and like. I would NEVER decorate our room in flowers because I know my husband wouldn't like it. Perhaps you can decorate the guest bedroom with those colors.
Reply:He told you no and he has at least 1/2 a say in this matter. So you willingly do something to piss him off, is that it? The matter should be at least settled first. You didn't say if you work. If you don't, he is entitled to a bit more respect as you are using his money.
Usually men don't care about what their wives do in the house but I guess everybody has a tolerance. He sleeps in the bedroom and if you choose something he really hates, he goes sleep somewhere else and then what? Whose fault will it be?
You still live like playing in a sandbox
Reply:If it was me i would do it anyway, but then my hubby doesnt care what i do as long as he doesnt have to help.
It depends on how you think your hubby will react if you know his going to flip his lid, ask him for ideas and see if you can meet eachother half way.
I dont know your hubby. Your the one that has to live with him, and his mood if he hates what you have done!
Good Luck
Reply:Offer a simple compromise, your colors but no floral designs.
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